I texted her fairly regularly after having gotten her number. One day I asked for a picture of her as she looked right then. She didn't want to at first because she didn't have any makeup on and no wig (which she wore when she danced and was the only way I had ever seen her). I kept asking and she sent me this photo. Completely real. I loved it. I love curly hair like this but she never really liked her hair, which is why she wore wigs a lot. I thought we'd start dating soon but it took a little longer.
Turns out she was dating someone. I'd see her at the club often and she'd talk about how he wasn't right for her. It still took about three months after she gave me her phone number for us to start seeing each other.
She texted me one day and asked if she could call, of course I said yes, and when she did she asked if I'd come pick her up. She said that she was breaking up with her boyfriend and didn't want to stay at her apartment because she knew he'd come there and bang on her door and she didn't want to hear it because she knew she'd let him in and she didn't want him to try to convince her to stay with him. So, I went and picked her up and brought her to my place.As we talked, she said she didn't want to go back to the club to work anymore, although by this time she had stopped dancing and was only waitressing (and of course not making much money). I said don't go back and I'll help you out. It was both a good and stupid move because coming out of a relationship she wasn't really ready for another one and I said that I was willing to give it some time because I wanted as serious relationship with her.
At first, we saw each other pretty frequently going to do things like horseback rides, eating at nice restaurants, and other things.
We seemed to have great times together.
No matter what we did we had fun.
After a month or so, she said she wanted to visit her friend in LA. So, she drove to LA (stopping at the grand canyon along the way) and spent about a week and a half there. She was supposed to stay a couple of weeks but came back early and just said things didn't go so great. It was after this trip that things started going downhill.
She was more distant and we didn't do much together for the next month. We had dinner one evening and that's when she told me more about her time in LA prior to us meeting. She had previously told me that she went to LA right after high school to work on her singing career. She had mentioned that before going to LA she had been part of some music jam thing that she did really well at. Turns out that she had won the festival when she had just turned 17. The result of this was that she was supposed to get some time with some music production professional(s) and she wrote a couple songs and released them on youtube. I've never heard them and don't know how successful they were. However, this made her think that she could go to LA and jump into a music career. Well, things didn't go that smoothly and at our dinner she told me that she wound up getting a sugardaddy to pay the bills. She said he wasn't paying her very much (and was still complaining about not getting enough sex) so that's when she started stripping. Also, at this dinner she told me that he was still hounding her to come back and he'd take better care of her but he was also trying to cause her a lot of trouble by trying to hack her email and bank accounts. I always wondered if that's who she actually went to see on her trip to LA.
By this time Thanksgiving had rolled around and she said she was going to stay with her family over the holiday and we wouldn't be able to see each other much. I was hoping that after a little break like that she'd come back with a better attitude. She didn't.
Through the month of December things were just as bad and I was just going to end it. We had a discussion over the phone one night and although it wasn't said that it was over I just kinda figured it was. Prior to that call we had made some plans to go to Top Golf. I assumed those plans were off but the day came and she texted me about going. I said you still want to go? She said "yes" and I went and picked her up. Well, something had changed because she was completely different. She was much happier and we had a great time and she was very affectionate (making out with me at Top Golf).
We went out again a couple days later and again had a great time. I thought things were on a new and very positive track. This was just before Christmas. She once again said she'd be staying with her family and we wouldn't likely see each other until after the holiday. She had mentioned going to this big outlet mall south of Austin after Christmas. On the day we were going she asked if she could bring a friend and I said sure.
The mall was about an hour away and while driving we all chatted and at one point her friend brought up that he (her friend is gay) had a friend from college coming up and he said "hey, we should get together when she's here" I thought nothing of it as I didn't expect that he meant me, just Akisha, him, and his friend. I didn't want to sit around with a bunch of 20 year olds getting high anyway.
Shortly after, we arrived at the shopping center and when I got out of the car I looked at my phone and saw that I had a text message. I looked at the message and saw it was from Akisha. Thinking it was strange, I read it and the message said (paraphrasing): don't say anything about getting together with your friend because he'll want to come wtih us and I don't want him to. Obviously she meant to send this to her friend, not me. As you can imagine, this stung quite a bit, even though I wasn't interested in going with them in the first place. I didn't say anything as we had just gotten there and I didn't want a long awkward trip back. So, we strolled around and looked at (expensive) purses that Akisha wanted. After a while we were looking at a purse she really wanted I said "maybe another time". Shortly after that we left to go back home.
On the way back, Akisha asked if she could see my phone to put on some music (there was much less conversation on the return trip) and of course she deleted the text message she'd sent me. When we got back to my place her friend said he'd wait in her car to give me and Akisha some alone time but she immediately told him it wasn't necessary. Akisha and I went to my bedroom and she laid down on the bed face first and buried her face in her phone not looking at me at all. I asked if we were going to talk about the message. She said what message?. I said the one you meant to send to your friend. She replied, "I meant to send that to you". I was pretty shocked and said that the message didn't make sense to send to me and if it was meant for me why'd you delete it. She said I just didn't think it was important. She refused to admit to it and ultimately just got up and left. There wasn't much else she could do if she wasn't going to be honest. Running away is how she handles most of the problems she creates. Since I was paying her bills and it was getting close to the end of the month, I texted her a couple of days later and said if you'll just come over and be honest about it and talk it out, I'll pay your rent. She said she'd think about it but came back pretty quickly and said no. I'd even tried to let her know that it wasn't the worst situtation and if she'd just admit to it and apologize and take responsibility we could work it out. But this is who she is, she won't admit guilt or responsibility for anything no matter how much proof you have. She'd rather just run away to a new (or old) guy and start over.
That ended our first relationship, but not our story.
Chapter two began a little over a year later when I moved back to Austin. I was walking into Perfect 10 one evening right when Akisha was walking out. We stared at each other for a few seconds not knowing what to do and I finally asked her if she wanted to join me inside. She did and we talked (and other things) for a bit. We seemed to fall back into our old ways and had fun, which I was very happy about.
I continued to see her at the club and after a few months she texted me asking that if she needed a place to stay could she stay with me. I said yes. It was only a few days (maybe a week) later that she asked to come stay with me. She was obviously running away from another relationship (other sources later proved that to be the case).
When she came to my place she was of course in financial dire straights and she said that she didn't want to go back to the club. I told her that I didn't want to be her sugardaddy and that I'd loan her the money and she'd need to pay it back and she agreed. Things were a little strange this go around and it wasn't even what you'd call an attempt by her to have a relationship (especially since I wasn't willing to throw cash at her). She really didn't even stay there much. I think she was spending time at her sister's. It was a little strange because she told me that "a friend" of her's was going into the military but didn't say who. I found out later that it was in fact her sister. Not sure why she was being so secertive about it, but that's just who Akisha is.
Things turned sour when she texted me one day asking if I'd take her shopping for some clothes for a photoshoot she was going to be doing. I believe the photo above is from one of the photoshoots she did around that time (there are some more intersting ones that she did that you can still find if you search hard enough). I told her that as I said in the beginning that I wasn't going down that road of financial support. From that point on she was quite unfriendly and apparently found someone that would. She went on a trip with someone, I assume it was her new sugardaddy, and when she came back she moved out. I asked her to pay me back the money she owed me and she said she didn't have it. Being pretty pissed, I said to get it from your sugardaddy or go back to the club to make the money. She she didn't want to do that and said she'd pay me when she could. Shockingly, she did pay me monthly until it was all paid back.
Chapter two, complete
Chapter three started about two years later (July 2019). It took me about that long to accept that there wasn't going to be a chapter three. The funny thing is that I was on a sugardaddy site and saw her profile pop up. It was there for a few weeks maybe then disappeared. It was about a month after it disappeared that I got an email from her saying "I've grown up quite a bit and would love to reconnect with you" and she gave me her phone number. I called her almost immediately and during our conversation I said I'd only want to try again if she was serious about a relationship and she assured me that she was. It was almost immediately obvious that she wasn't and what she meant by matured was that she thought she was better at hiding what $he wa$ really after. We arranged to have dinner just a couple days after we talked. During one text conversation she said maybe we can go shopping too. So, when I picked her up she was stunning (see the above picture). We got to the restauarant/shopping center and as we started to walk to the restaurant she stopped and said maybe we should go shopping first just in case the stores closed before we were done with dinner. You can see (part of) the result of said shopping trip in the above photo. She finally got her purse.
We spent most of the following weekend together eating out, going to clubs, and just enjoying some nightlife
It was 4th of July weekend so we hit the lake. I was on cloud nine.
For the first two or three months things went pretty well. We were together quite a bit. She did seem to make some effort at a real relationship, although it was still a struggle for her to be honest and open.
We did have some great fun doing the things we liked.
Shopping for her golf outifts was even more fun than the golf.
Things started going downhill after this Octoberfest trip to Fredericksburg. We were having a great time until we went to Enchanted Rock. On the way up she wanted me to take some pictures of her but she threw a little fit because I wasn't taking them the right way. She then refused to climb the rest of the way to the top. I went to the top by myself. When I got back down to where she was, she didn't say much and she high-tailed it back to the car.
Chapter 3 ended with a whimper. She basically ghosted me (yes, the maturity was off the charts). This was in October of 2019.
Chapter 4... This is a drawn out chapter. Akisha contacted me in February of 2020 (yeah, right before COVID hit). She was crying (not literally) about how she wished that she could come over to my place and talk and enjoy being together. What she didn't know was that I no longer lived in Austin. What I didn't know at that moment was that she had "moved" to Seattle to live with a friend. Who knows what happened between her ghosting me and her trip to Seattle but she wasn't very happy being there. Her friend's husband was abusive and her friend was..., well, it wasn't a good situation. In the weeks that went by we talked and talked and talked and there was some talk of getting back together but when I lost my job due to COVID and told her that things might be a little unstable for a bit, she pretty much stopped talking to me.
After about four months I texted her to see how she was doing. She had moved back to Austin (without saying anything to me). I guess OnlyFans was paying off well enough that she didn't need me for anything. We started talking again and it was a bit more serious this time and she eventually said she'd come up to Dallas, where I now lived, for a weekend with the expectation that she was going to move in with me.
The weekend went OK although we had a couple of disagreements on things that were kind of out of the ordinary for us (in my opinion she was being petty). The weekend ended on kind of a weird note even though most of the weekend was actually really fun. A few days later she said she wasn't going to move in with me. Two weeks later she'd moved to LA. A month after that (with no communication in between), I get a text saying "miss you". This mostly meant miss your money because she had apparently quit working on her OnlyFans and I'm guessing that that money had run out.
Things started off a bit strained but she quickly asked me to buy her a flight to visit her sister for Christmas and New Years and that she'd come visit me for a few days first. I agreed and we started back up again. Her tone was much more serious now. I think she was still mostly in sugarbaby mode but there was definitely a more serious intent, more so than at any time in the past. We talked a LOT in the run up to the trip. During this time I agreed to pay her bills and rent since she'd be away for so long and not making any money (she wasn't making much anyway).
When she arrived things went quite well, of course she had her Christmas list in tow and as expected it wasn't cheap. This was in addition to jewelery that I had already bought for her before she even arrived. The trip went ok but she decided to take a (short) trip to Austin to see her friends during what was supposed to be our time together. You can guess I wasn't real happy about that.
When she left for her sister's on Christmas eve, I gave her my credit card so that she'd be able to take care of herself while away. Things went to complete shit by Christmas night. She called me up crying (literally this time) because her sister had thrown her out of her house and she was standing on the sidewalk with her bags. Her sister lived on a military base so being kicked out was worse than had it been anywhere else. Being an "unauthorized" civilian on a military base is not where you want to be. She was in a shambles to say the least. However, I was able to get her a Lyft and a hotel so that she'd be safe. It took a couple days to get her flight rearranged but we got her back home. Note that she wouldn't come back to Dallas to spend New Years with me.
Once she got back home we started making many more plans to be together. During COVID, flights were cheap so we booked several in advance. One such trip was for Valentine's Day weekend (over a month and a half away).
Akisha came to Dallas a couple weeks after the ill fated trip to her sister's and we had a great time. So great in fact that we got engaged.
I couldn't believe it. We had talked a little bit about getting married but it wasn't like imminent marriage type of talk more like in 6 months (after all, at this point we'd known each other for over 5 years). So, one day we were shopping at the mall and I wanted to go to a jewelry store to see what type of rings she liked so when the time came I could buy something she liked. As we were looking at rings, Akisha got more and more excited and I kept saying that I didn't bring her in there to get a ring today. She got so enthralled with the ring that she asked "what's happening?". At that point I said lets step out of the store and talk. I told her that I loved her and certainly wanted to marry her but that this was not my planned way of doing this. However, if she wanted this now I am certainly ready and she excitedly said yes she wanted it. We went back in and ordered the ring. They needed to resize it but it would only take an hour. So, we waited and talked about our future and having kids and when it was time for the ring to be done we went and picked it up and I got down on one knee and proposed. I couldn't have been happier.
I guess I should have known that things weren't going to work out when the next day she asked if we could go back and get a bigger, better ring (not that the one she picked out was small by any means).
Things were actually great for a while (i.e. a month). This is when the Valentine's trip was coming. The dates had to be changed a little because she was potentially shooting a commercial in the Dallas area some time after Valentine's weekend and needed to be available potentially on a moments notice. All was good.
Then, a few days before the weekend, things started gettin weird. She was scheduled to come on the 11th. On the 9th these were the texts that we sent each other. As you can see, Everything was great.
Things started to turn the next day.
Things got even more weird that night. Suddenly, me paying ALL her bills, and when I say ALL I mean far more than she would ever spend if she were paying them. She suddenly didn't like that she was paying for everything by using my credit card which if you recall I gave her when she left to go to her sister's. So, we had a three hour conversation the night of the 10th explaining that she needed to control her spending and that if I'm paying the bills I'm going to pay them in the way that best suits me. The call ended on an OK note (for me anyway).
The next day got worse. Note the length of time between the first few messages.
Note the ultimatums to be paid in cash and calling me a liar when I had previous text converstations telling her exactly that and had the same conversation several months before. Also, there had been no mention of her feeling ill at all and as you'll see she claims that it had been a problem for a few days, not once did I hear about it. That message came about 2 hours after another long call that was after the text message that said "call me". She sent it at the time she did becuase she knew I would be asleep by then. I wasn't. I was so upset and getting a little pissed about the delayed trip and radically different attitude that I couldn't go to sleep. I chose not to respond immediately and eventually went to sleep. Here are the texts from the next day, the 12th, where she now mentions that she'd been having this problem for days (without ever having said anything about it previously).
New day, new drama. Of course she wasn't feeling better and now she had to rebook the flight for Saturday, the 13th. Saturday comes and guess what, she's still not feeling well enough to travel and says she's going to have to rebook the flight for Monday or Tuesday. Guess how I'm feeling. Saturday night rolls around and since I'm alone and doing nothing because my fiancè is 1500 miles away I decide to call so I can at least talk to her and get to hear her voice. When she answers, the call has terrible audio and after a few sentences I ask if she's in her car becuase the sound is so bad. She says yes let me call you back. She calls back right away and it's still bad and I ask her where she's going and why she's out on a cold night when she's too sick to travel? She sort of says she's feeling better so I ask if she can come tomorrow, i.e. Valentine's Day. She snaps back with "why tomorrow?". I'm like, for the same reason I wanted you here three days ago. She's mostly evading all my questions and at this point I'm pretty pissed and basically tell her that she's lying and that she better start being honest. Of course she hangs up and few unpleasnt text messages go back and forth and that ends the night and effectively our relationship as well.
I texted her a few days later imploring her to be honest but she claimed that she was honest and wouldn't discuss it further. It was the last contact we had for nearly a year.
So, let's rewind a bit to get a better picture of what was really going on. On Feb 9th (the day that things were so wonderful and I was wonderful), Akisha got an STD test. Below is the charge shown on my credit card and it's from an STD testing facility (Google it yourself or call the number).
So, was her need for a delay on the 10th due to the need to wait until she got her test results back? Now, I didn't even look at most of the charges that she was making in much detail and in fact I didn't start validating them until many months later. When I saw this one and found out what it was, it seemed to validate what I had been thinking. However, since she had been using my card to buy things for other people likely to have them give her the cash so that she could use it to support her marijuana habit (hopefully only marijuana as she'd had other drug use issues in the past), I thought that maybe she had purchased it for someone she knows.
It wasn't until even much later that I called the testing facility claiming possible fraudulent charges and asked them if Akisha Petties had used my card to order tests from them. They verified that she had ordered the tests on Feb 9th 2021 and that the charge was for $198, the exact amount of their STD test suite (even today that's what they charge). So, had Akisha been screwing around and caught an STD and needed time to get treatment for it before she came to visit? Maybe, but I think something else was going on. Her sudden demands for cash and her propensity for sugar daddies makes me think that she was planning to spend the weekend with someone that would pay her to be their Valentine's weekend treat and that she needed the test to prove that she was clean enough to perform as required for the weekend. Another thing that supports this is that she made no charges at all on my card that weekend. From the time I had given her my card in Decemnber, until that weekend, there was only one day, where she wasn't in Dallas with me, that she didn't make a charge on the card. Then there was the entire Valentine's weekend without any charges. There were charges every day the week before and there were charges starting again on the Monday after that weekend and every day after until I cut the card off. I guess she didn't need to buy anything because someone else was paying the bills that weekend.
It wasn't until over a year later that we had a conversatoins where she said to me that she was going to the grocery store that Saturday night. If that was the case, why didn't she use my card? She had no problem using it A LOT right before that weekend and right after so why not use it to pay for some groceries. Also, Akisha had no problem calling DoorDash to bring her food and charging it to my card of course.
One more thing, Akisha would NEVER go to a doctor. She basically doesn't believe in modern medicine (unless it's to get new boobs and lips, apparently). She wouldn't so much as take a Tylenol when she was feeling bad, which I had actually asked her to do while she was "ill" with this terrible earache, sore throat, and headache.
Akisha was so broken up about this that she was married less than 8 months later.
I could have said more and gone into more detail but this should give you an idea of how selfish, deceitful, and manipulative she was to me the entire time I've known her (nearinng 8 years). I treated that woman like gold and she treated me like shit. If you ever have any engagement with her, expect the same treatment because I'm not the only one that she's done these types of things to.
This is where it all started. I met Akisha at Perfect 10 strip club north of Austin, Texas in April of 2015. When I first saw her she was sitting with some guy but I stopped to look because something about her was so alluring. A few minutes later Akisha strolled into the VIP area where I was sitting and I was again stunned. Love at first sight. She sat down and we talked a bit and I was even more hooked. She gave me a few dances and then some other girl grabbed her to take her to some guy that she'd found that was supposedly throwing around money (he wasn't). She came back after a little bit and we talked and she danced some more. I was completely hooked. I came back frequently just to see her. It wasn't long before I was pestering her for her phone number. After about a month and a half, she finally gave it to me.